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Breaking the Habit of Worrying and Hyper vigilance
If you’re here, reading this post, I want to take a moment to acknowledge you. Seriously, it’s no small feat to seek out conversations on habitual worrying and hypervigilance. It’s not quite the same as clicking on “fun new fashions” or “Great family games”. Nope. You’re the type of person who shows up for herself. You’re here because you’re committed to your well-being and know that taking care of yourself makes a ripple effect on everyone around you. And guess what? By tackling your own worry habit, you’re actually making a difference in the world.
You see, when you start working on your own patterns—particularly the habit of worrying—you set an example that ripples outward. By deciding that you’re not responsible for everyone else’s problems and feelings, you’re breaking free from a mindset that has been ingrained for generations. It’s a bold and revolutionary step that echoes far beyond your immediate world. Thank you!
Over-Responsibility and Habitual Worrying
Many of us have been trained to worry about what others think and feel. We’re constantly scanning our surroundings, trying to do and say the “right” things, and even worrying about things that might go wrong for others. This hypervigilance keeps us on edge and drains our energy.
If you’re anything like me, you find yourself scanning not only your immediate environment but also, scanning and thinking over your relationships. You may find yourself thinking about what may be going wrong for them or what may possibly go wrong in the future. This hyper vigilance and pattern of thinking (habitual worrying) is frying our adrenals and leaving us in a state of feeling like the other shoe is always about to drop.
Break The Worry Habit
It’s time to rewrite the rules, Warriors! Our ancestors fought for external change, and now it’s our turn to tackle the inner beliefs that hold us back. We’re breaking free from the old programming that tells us we need to take care of everyone else before ourselves.
Patriarchal programming has long told us that we need to take care of everyone and everything. The message of the patriarchy is that women are here to serve. We literally are being trained to shift our thinking from our life and what’s in our control to what’s happening outside and how might we serve out there. Which is why women report feeling guilt and shame. When we choose to actually treat our desires and needs as equal to the other people in our life, it will feel uncomfortable.
And while habitual worrying and hyper-vigilance feels uncomfortable also, it’s a known discomfort and so our brain prefers it over learning something new.
Listen in to Learn
- How empty nesting was an opportunity showed me my habitual worry,
- What chronic worry and hypervigilance look and feel like,
- How to break the habit so that we feel less out of control, less guilt, and less resentment,
- What you can do to be a part of the solution for us and the next generation
Break The Pattern and Share it Forward
This is an important episode to share. Living in a constant state of hyper-vigilance is exhausting and unsustainable. It leads to burnout and causes us to take on responsibilities that aren’t ours to bear. It’s a broken model, one that we need to fix—not just for ourselves but for the future.
The good news is that there’s a way out.
First step, listen to the podcast. Second step, join the Love Your Life School community and be part of the groundswell of women who are breaking generational patterns, healing from childhood wounds and trauma, and doing things differently. It really is possible to live a life you love. I’d love to teach you how.
You are a warrior, and this is part of your journey to freedom.
