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Protecting Your Peace: The Power of Energetic Boundaries
Have you ever been in a really good mood only to have someone enter the room and it feels like your body just absorbed black ooze?
Like your feeling of lightness was now replaced with heaviness?
Or maybe you’ve shared your excitement about a new goal or lifestyle change, only to be met with skepticism or even resistance?
This can also happen when we share our good news or mood. And it seems like someone intentionally brings up something you’re sensitive about to “bring you back down”.
The Importance of Energetic Boundaries
This is where energetic boundaries come into play. These invisible yet powerful barriers help us protect our energy and stay aligned with our goals, even when others are uncomfortable with our growth.
So why do we need these boundaries? Because, dear warriors, not everyone around us is tuned into the same frequency of self-improvement. They’re not listening to this podcast or reading the books you do, and that’s okay.
Nevertheless, when you start to change, it can feel threatening to those who are used to you being a certain way. They may try, often unconsciously, to pull you back to your old patterns. It’s like they’re saying, “Get back in the cave where it’s safe and predictable.” Whereas you know that true growth happens outside of your comfort zone.
Crabs and House Flies
Listen to this week’s episode of the Love Your Life School for a full explanation of how learning about crabs in a bucket and house flies can help you. It sounds absurd but learning about the tendencies of these two animals is hugely helpful to us humans. We waste a lot of energy in two main areas when we’re growing or going through a midlife reinvention. Firstly, we think things shouldn’t bother us as much as they do. Secondly, we think other people in our life should support us. Learning about crabs and flies helps so many midlife women find peace so they can conserve their energy and put up energetic boundaries.
People in your life may unintentionally act to pull you back to what feels comfortable and familiar for them, even if it’s limiting for you. It’s important to recognize this behavior for what it is—a reaction to their own discomfort. While it’s not about you, without energetic boundaries, it can be exhausting and feel like burnout.
Boundaries are a Part of Healthy Relationships
Energetic boundaries are not about shutting people out; they’re about protecting your energy and focus. Think of them as earplugs that filter out the noise of doubt and negativity from others.
They help you stay in your lane, focused on your path, without getting pulled off course by someone else’s fears or limitations. By setting these boundaries, you not only preserve your own energy but also strengthen your relationships, because you’re engaging with others from a place of self-respect and clarity.
If you’re listening live, don’t miss out on the training this month in the Love Your Life School. I will be teaching the exact steps (and can give you the words!) on how to set these boundaries in your relationships. Sign up today before the doors close.
