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How to Stop Caring What Other People Think (CONFIDENCE SERIES)
Warriors! I know that many of you, like me, have struggled with caring too much about what others think. It’s exhausting, isn’t it? That constant need for approval can leave us feeling hollow and disconnected from our true selves. But today, I’m here to tell you that you can break free from this cycle and embrace your own opinions with confidence.
The truth is, you cannot control what others think of you, so why waste your precious energy worrying about it? It’s time to shift your focus inward and start trusting your own judgment. You are the expert on your own life, your own values, and your own beliefs. Your opinions matter, and you have every right to express them without fear of judgment.
Now, I know what you’re thinking: “But Susie, it’s not that easy!” And you’re right, it’s not always easy. Our brains are wired to seek acceptance and approval, it’s a primal instinct. But that doesn’t mean we have to let our primal brains run the show.
We have the power to reprogram our thinking and respond differently to those triggers. This is where the magic of life coaching comes in. By understanding how our brains work and learning new tools, we can shift from fear-based thinking to empowered, adult-like thinking.
Here’s what we are covering:
Tame Your Primal Brain
Did you know that your desire for approval is rooted in ancient programming within your brain? It’s true! Our primal brain, the part responsible for survival instincts, craves acceptance from others. However, this primal urge can easily take over, leading to constant worry and self-doubt. By understanding this innate wiring, you can develop compassion for yourself and silence your inner critic.
Three Powerful Tools that can help you Stop Caring What Other People Think
I’ll take you through a personal experience where I used three transformative coaching tools to overcome my own insecurities. You’ll learn how to shift your perspective from fear and paranoia to a more positive outlook, conduct reality checks on your thoughts, and silence that nagging voice in your head that constantly worries about what others think. These tools are like a toolkit for building confidence and self-assurance.
Reality Check:
The next time you find yourself worrying about what someone thinks of you, take a moment to ask yourself, “What am I really afraid of?” Get specific. What is the story you’re telling yourself? Once you identify the fear, you can start to challenge it.
Balance:
Our brains have a negativity bias, which means we tend to focus on the negative and overlook the positive. To counter this, actively seek out the positive aspects of the situation. Ask yourself, “What else might be going on here?” Imagine the best-case scenario instead of the worst.
Making Peace:
Accept that you are not for everyone, and that’s okay. Not everyone is going to like you, and that doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. You are a unique and wonderful individual, and there are people out there who will appreciate you for exactly who you are. It’s also important to make peace with your imperfections. We all have flaws, and that’s what makes us human. Embrace your messy, magnificent self and let go of the need to be perfect.
Next Steps for Confidence and Stop Caring What Other People Think
Your confidence is your most valuable asset. If you’re not feeling great about yourself, don’t settle. I’ll share some actionable advice on taking the next step toward a more confident and fulfilling life. Remember, you deserve to feel good about yourself, and it’s never too late to start working on your self-esteem.
Remember, Warriors, this is a journey. It takes time and practice to rewire our brains and let go of the need for external validation. But I promise you, it’s worth it. When you start to value your own opinions and beliefs more than anyone else’s, you’ll experience a newfound sense of freedom, confidence, and empowerment.
I’ve been on this journey myself, and I know how transformative it can be. I’ve learned to love and accept myself unconditionally, and I want that for you too. If you’re ready to take the next step on your journey to self-love and acceptance, I invite you to join me in the Love Your Life School or schedule a one-on-one coaching session. Remember, you are not alone. We’re all in this together.
Now, go out there and embrace your own opinions confidently. You’ve got this, Warriors! Sign up for a session, If I could do it, so can you.