After the last episodes, I feel it’s time for a little bit of uplifting reminder that you can feel like you’re the warrior in your life, hence this episode. You will hear me talk about the concept of expectation theory and how our thoughts and beliefs shape our actions and outcomes. I also emphasize the importance of recognizing our own role in our circumstances and taking responsibility for our own happiness and empowerment. As always I will be sharing my personal experience of feeling stuck in a harmful marriage and how I was able to break free by changing her thoughts and expectations. 


Highlights of this episode:

  • Our thoughts and expectations shape our actions and outcomes in life.
  • Beliefs are thoughts that we think over and over until we believe them to be true.
  • It’s important to challenge limiting beliefs and open ourselves up to new possibilities.
  • Taking responsibility for our thoughts and actions empowers us to create positive change in our lives.
  • Believing in a future that we can’t yet see is the first step towards making it a reality.


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In life, we often find ourselves feeling disempowered and stuck in certain areas. We may believe that our circumstances are beyond our control and that change is not possible for us. However, in Episode 275 of the Love Your Life show, we explore the concept of Expectation Theory, which suggests that our thoughts and expectations shape our actions and ultimately determine our results. By understanding and challenging our beliefs, we can break free from the limitations we impose on ourselves and create a life we truly love.

The Power of Expectations

Expectation Theory posits that we take action based on what we believe will happen. Our expectations solidify our beliefs, and our beliefs shape our reality. As Susie Pettit explains, “Our thinking leads to the results we have in our life. It’s not the kid or the husband or the job or the weight. It is our thinking.” This theory highlights the importance of examining our thoughts and beliefs to understand how they influence our actions and outcomes.

Breaking Free from Victimhood

One of the key insights of Expectation Theory is that we often put our ability to feel better or create change outside of ourselves. We blame external factors such as our relationships, work, or circumstances for our unhappiness or lack of progress. However, as Susie emphasizes, “If you think something’s possible for you, it is. If you think you can, you can.” By recognizing our role in creating our reality, we can shift from a victim mindset to one of empowerment.

Challenging Limiting Beliefs

Expectation Theory reveals that our beliefs are not fixed truths but rather thoughts we have repeated until we accept them as reality. Susie explains, “A belief is just a thought you think over and over until you believe it’s true.” This understanding opens up the possibility of challenging and changing our beliefs to create a different future. By questioning the validity of our limiting beliefs, we can expand our window of possibility and open ourselves up to new opportunities.

Embracing the Glimmer of Possibility

The glimmer of possibility is a crucial concept in Expectation Theory. It represents that small voice within us that whispers, “Maybe.” It’s the spark of hope that suggests there might be more to our lives than what we currently believe. Susie shares her personal experience of listening to a song during a challenging time in her life, repeating the lyrics, “I know it’s gonna be. I know it’s gonna be.” This practice of embracing the glimmer of possibility can help us shift our mindset and take action towards a brighter future.

Overcoming Excuses and Taking Action

Expectation Theory challenges us to confront the excuses generated by our brains and take intentional action. Susie reminds us that “excuses are endless, but time is not.” We must resist the temptation to settle for less than we desire and instead push past our excuses to live the life we truly want. By enrolling in programs or seeking support from coaches or mentors, we can gain the tools and guidance needed to challenge our thinking and take consistent steps towards our goals.

The Impact of Expectation Theory

Expectation Theory has profound implications for our lives. By understanding that our thoughts and expectations shape our reality, we can break free from self-imposed limitations and create a life aligned with our values and desires. This theory empowers us to take responsibility for our own happiness and success, rather than relying on external factors. It encourages us to challenge our beliefs and embrace the glimmer of possibility, knowing that change is possible for us.


In conclusion, Expectation Theory offers a powerful framework for understanding the relationship between our thoughts, expectations, and outcomes. By recognizing our role in creating our reality, challenging limiting beliefs, and embracing the glimmer of possibility, we can unlock our potential and live a life we truly love. It is essential to take action and seek support to overcome excuses and push past self-imposed limitations. The future outlook is one of empowerment and growth as we continue to expand our window of possibility and create the life we desire.

Remember, as Susie Pettit says, “You deserve a life on your terms. You deserve friends and lovers and family members that fill up your cup to so overflowing that it makes you feel great. You deserve interdependent relationships, shared relationships where they’re giving to you and you’re giving to them.” Embrace the power of Expectation Theory and start living the life you love today.