Truthfully? How big is my brave? Sometimes my brave is quite small. After all, bravery doesn’t feel good. It feels scary. When we’re brave, we are doing something we’re unsure of. We’re trying something new. We’re not in control of the outcome. As Bear Grylls says: “Being brave isn’t the absence of fear. Being brave is having that fear but finding a way through it.”
So why would we choose to take an action that requires us to move through fear? Shen it would make us uncomfortable? The truth is, we often don’t choose action.
It’s far easier to choose to stay the same:
To stay in a job you don’t like.
To stay in a loveless relationship.
To stay overweight.
It’s far easier to make excuses.
How about you? Where are you making excuses in your life? I’ve made many excuses throughout my life. I still do. Excuses can protect us when we aren’t ready to be brave yet. As Arthur Burt’s quote: “Nothing happens until the pain of remaining the same outweighs the pain of change”. There are times to make excuse. But too often, excuses keep us from the life we’re capable of living.
Have you ever wondered why babies choose to learn to walk? It takes a lot of effort, no? Trying to stand up; to find your balance; to learn how far to put one foot in front of the other. Why do they go to the effort? They keep falling over. Why do they choose to feel discomfort? Why do they want to learn something new? Isn’t it easier to sit and have everything brought to them?
How about us? What makes us decide to get up off the couch to train for a 5K? Why would we choose to go back to school? When we think of changing; career, marriage, weight, location, we feel fear. Fear doesn’t feel good. Unchecked, fear can run wild, like a toddler in our brain. It can convince us we don’t have choices. It can convince us it’s fine keep thinking the same thoughts, taking the same actions, and getting the same results in our lives. For some, that works. They are content to stay, content to live in that half-space.
So why do some of us choose to move into the fear? Why choose change if change is uncomfortable? I think it’s our inner warrior. S/he can’t sit still. Our warrior trusts in us and nudges us forward. Shows us how, if we are brave, we can become a better version of ourselves.
Where are you making excuses? What is your warrior whispering?
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What were you doing 20-minutes ago?
How big is your brave?