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Overfunctioning and Learned Helplessness
Hello and welcome Warriors. Today we will be exploring the topics of over functioning and learned helplessness. These are complex dynamics that often play out in our relationships and can have a significant impact on our well-being. I will share my own personal experience with overfunctioning and how it was influenced by my upbringing. You can hear me emphasize the importance of recognizing these patterns and breaking the cycle to create healthier, more balanced relationships.
And fear not, I am here to simplify these concepts and provide you with the tools to break the cycle and live a more empowered life. Take a listen because I will also offer reflection exercises for you Warriors to explore their own experiences and roles in these dynamics.
Highlights of this episode:
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Over-functioning and under-functioning create an unhealthy dynamic in relationships.
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Learned helplessness can arise from persistent feelings of powerlessness and failure to succeed.
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Reflect on the roles and expectations modeled in your upbringing to gain awareness of your own patterns.
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Recognize where you may be over-functioning or under-functioning in your current relationships.
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Break the cycle by fostering interdependence and shared responsibility.
Reflection Warrior Homework Questions:
- What was modeled for you growing up in terms of over functioning, under functioning and learned helplessness? Every house has patterns of behavior, what were yours?
- Currently, where in your life do you overfunction? Where do you take care of others needs that they could take care of themselves (because they’re over 18)? Another thing to look at is where do you feel like, if you stop doing it, everything will fall apart. What’s that “it”?
- Do you see areas in your life where others have this learned helplessness? Where and how?
- In which areas of your life do you feel resentment?
- Can you think of areas in your life where you underfunction?
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