Manuals: Letting Other People Control How We Feel
Whenever we think someone else’s behavior causes our emotions we have set ourselves up to be completely powerless.
Whenever we think someone else’s behavior causes our emotions we have set ourselves up to be completely powerless.
As an adult, I am independent. It is not up to my husband, my father, or my mother to make me happy or provide for me. I am in charge of that. There was no knight in shining armor coming to rescue me. I don’t need one. I have me and I am a warrior.
Do you have trouble remembering the difference between December2016 and December 2014? This is why. Gift yourself the chance to slow time down this year. Choose one of the above actions and start today.
When I drop my expectations from some lofty, fantasy world of how everyone’s going to act, I feel happier and calmer. It’s not that I have lowered my standards, it’s that I’m no longer trying to control how others should act or what others should do.
I have never had a client tell me they want to feel overwhelmed, gluttonous, or anxious yet, when we don’t deliberately plan, we often end up feeling that way. Choose to move consciously into this holiday season.