“You’ve changed”

Hum…I don’t know about you but, in the past, when that was said to me, it was said with a negative connotation. I’ve been asked: “What happened to the Old Susie?” Change is scary but it’s a necessary part of our human experience.

We are wired to grow. To change. To evolve.

Change is imperative to our mental and physical health. Each and every day matters. The day we stop looking forward is the day we start dying. 

Instead of just surviving, choose to thrive by doing these three things:

  1. Set Goals! What do you want your summer to be like? What do you want to be doing in 5 years? In ten years? In 25 years? We are goal-driven as kids. We study to get good grades to get into a good college so we can get a good job. But then what? Keep setting goals if you want to enjoy life. Your best years are not behind you. They are in front of you. Where are you going? 
  2. Learn! Put that brain to work. What do you like to do? Is there something you could read or somewhere you could go to learn more about it? Is there something you’ve always wanted to do? Put yourself in new situations. If you feel that tremor of uncertainty, that’s your warrior flag waving you forward. Go!
  3. Tribe mates! Look at who is around you. Do they criticize you? Change is scary: for us and for those around us. When we start changing an aspect of our life, if those around us aren’t in a good place in their lives, they’re going to be afraid of our change. What do people do when they’re afraid? Resist. For example, if you leave your corporate job to become an entrepreneur, those that aren’t happy in their corporate jobs might tell you what could go wrong. This is because that’s what they’re telling themselves as the reason for why they’re not doing exactly what you’re doing. If you choose to stop drinking each night and start exercising in the morning, the people who used to drink with you might be critical of your choices. Why? Because if you can stop numbing yourself with wine, that means they can too. Pay attention to what those around you are saying. Choose to surround yourself with those who see your change for what it is: evolving to the next best version of yourself. 

Where in your life is change needed?

What are you going to do about it?