Relationships
If you’ve ever been in a narcissistic relationship (with a partner, parent, boss, or friend), you know the effects don’t magically disappear when you leave. In fact, sometimes that’s when the real work begins.
In this episode of The Love Your Life Show, I share three common behaviors many of us carry after narcissistic abuse:
Hypervigilance and people-pleasing
Difficulty trusting your own perceptions
Emotional dysregulation or numbness
These aren’t signs you’re broken. Rather, they’re survival patterns your brain and body learned in unsafe environments. Coping techniques you learned to protect yourself in complex PTSD.
Today is part one of a two-part series, and we’re starting with awareness: how these behaviors show up, what they look like in everyday life, and why you might still be doing them even years later.
Whether you’re early in recovery or decades out, this episode will help you see your patterns with compassion — and prepare you for next week’s conversation about how to heal and move forward.
If you liked this show, you’ll like this one:
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-recovery/id1434429161?i=1000679967740
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4LZOMV5GGxgk21Tt2oMtYu?si=fe90af4f7cb24793
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Relationships
Feel Like You’re Always Fixing, Pleasing, or Controlling? Try This.
What if you stopped trying so hard to make everyone else happy… and just let them?
In this powerful refresh of the Let Them theory, I’m giving you a 15-minute reminder that you are not responsible for everyone’s emotions and behaviors. That’s their job. Your job? Taking care of you.
This episode is a must-listen if you’ve ever thought:
“Why can’t they just do it my way?”
“I’m so tired of being the one who holds everything together.”
“If I let them act like that, won’t everything fall apart?”
Inside, we cover:
What Let Them really means (and what it doesn’t)
How to set emotional boundaries without guilt
Why this one mindset shift can free you from resentment and burnout
Simple examples you can apply today with your kids, partner, or friends
You deserve lightness. You deserve peace. And you don’t have to carry everyone else to get there.
Let them… and love yourself.
Press play and reclaim your power, warrior.
If you liked this show, you’ll like these two:
Let Them [Emotional Freedom Series] on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/let-them-emotional-freedom-series/id1434429161?i=1000619325997
Let Them [Emotional Freedom Series] On Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/5o6LzBpYFIB7QvEZJwiLp9?si=09ee9776fed74cba
Let Them 2.0 on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/let-them-2-0/id1434429161?i=1000627686099
Let Them Graduate Level on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4PMCbNsLAJPnT89sgJ3BrU?si=5cf45269b3f54bcc
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Relationships
Do you ever find it easier to just keep doing what you’re doing rather than what’s best for you?
Do you hear about boundaries and nod along like, makes sense, but when it comes to opening your mouth you talk yourself out of it?
Or maybe you’re like me, you’d say yes when you want to say no, and then feel like no one understands how much I’m doing and how tired I am?
Today on the Love Your Life Show, I’m here to reassure you that you’re not alone and the solution isn’t as far away as you think. There’s a tiny piece that most of the boundary experts on instagram and tiktok are missing that, once you learn it, makes all of this feel much less hard.
In this episode, I’m digging into why setting boundaries feels so hard for so many of us, even those listeners who grew up in the most loving and supportive homes.
As women, and especially as recovering people-pleasers and codependents, we often fall into a pattern of keeping the peace—on the outside—while we’re boiling inside. This episode is a warm and honest invitation to explore that pattern with compassion. I’ll help you see where this behavior started, why it made sense at the time, and how it’s costing you now. Most importantly, I’ll share the missing piece that will help you begin speaking up for yourself—without blowing up your life or your relationships.
You don’t have to go from silence to shouting. You just need to begin. If you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start building stronger, more honest relationships, this one’s for you. ⭐️
If you liked this show, you’ll like this one:
Boundaries without the B*tchiness On Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/love-your-life-show-personal-growth-mindset-habits/id1434429161?i=1000524730385
Boundaries without the B*tchiness On Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/2luL8lYiqSElaOkYAuZarD?si=Fr273yOGQ_iAdJpued2mCg
Unconditional Love & Boundaries: Your Holiday Survival Guide on Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/love-your-life-show-personal-growth-mindset-habits/id1434429161?i=1000680778616
Unconditional Love & Boundaries: Your Holiday Survival Guide on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/1f7pZa7jyrTpB35kIn6hZ7?si=fb76c4bfd1414359
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Relationships
Warriors! Here are the strategies that work when interacting with narcissists or emotionally immature people. These are ways that I’ve kept my cool even in the craziest of situations and I’m so excited to share them with you.
You know those conversations that leave you feeling drained, confused, or like you’re the one who did something wrong — even when you didn’t?
The person you’re interacting with may be a narcissist, or maybe just acting like an emotional child. No matter, these tools work!
Instead of spiraling into frustration or self-doubt, doing these 4 things help you feel more calm and in control.
In this follow-up episode, I’m sharing clear, actionable tools to help you communicate with all our people, whether they’re currently acting emotionally immature or narcissists. These tools help you stay grounded no matter what they’re throwing your way.
Whether it’s a partner, parent, teenager, coworker, adult child, or friend, these tools will help you so much. They help me navigate tricky dynamics with more ease, clarity, and confidence.
🔑 In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to communicate more effectively (aka How to act like an adult when the people around you are not)
4 Different Relationships Techniques (and how to use them)
What to stop doing immediately if you want to preserve your energy
How to avoid over-functioning in emotionally draining relationships
How to shift from reaction to intention in conversations that trigger you
Why trying to “get them to understand” is a dead-end street
This is your reminder that it’s not your job to fix people. We “let them” be them. It’s your job to take care of you. This episode will help you do just that. 💛
If you liked this show, you’ll like this one:
Truth Bomb: It’s Not About You! On Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/love-your-life-show-personal-growth-mindset-habits/id1434429161?i=1000501078688
Truth Bomb: It’s Not About You! On Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2TxQu1k5OVR5dsHP3UKB3x?si=cs2hStFqTWSkZA83JJ0rWA
Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/357
CONNECT WITH COACH SUSIE:
⭐️Work with Coach Susie: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/
🤓The Love Your Life School Membership – http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com
🙌🏾 Support Susie’s Mission: https://patreon.com/susiepettit
🩷Find and follow her on YouTube – LOVE YOUR LIFE VLOG – YouTube https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW9PibXJfNpKk5Yr6rpNVq4P_utWFkvYS
Or Instagram – https://instagram.com/smb.wellness
Relationships
Does it seem like everyone’s being labeled a narcissist these days?
Truth be told, sometimes I read some of the Instagram posts and wonder: “Wait, am I the narcissist?”
Luckily I have years of study in this and know what’s actually happening (and share it to help you today)!
Listen in to learn 3 common traits of emotional immaturity, defensiveness, over-functioning, and victim thinking, while also giving you things to do and say when you spot them (in yourself or someone else).
This isn’t about judging or labeling. It’s about learning the skills we were never taught, so we can show up with more peace, power, and clarity in our relationships. Emotional intelligence isn’t something you’re born with, we’re all emotionally immature. It’s something you build by listening to episodes of the Love Your Life Show like this 🧨
Tune in to learn:
💬 How emotional immaturity shows up in everyday life
💡 The difference between narcissism and immaturity
⚡ Small but mighty actions that help you grow emotional strength
❤️ How to stop feeling so triggered in difficult relationships
Whether you’re navigating a tricky partner, parent, teen, or just want to feel more emotionally grounded, I made this episode for you!
If you liked this show, you’ll like this one:
Emotional Abuse, Manipulation and Emotional Immaturity on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/emotional-abuse-and-manipulation/id1434429161?i=1000502563179
Emotional Abuse, Manipulation and Emotional Immaturity on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0N1JsiMKXbEritcBlmoEnr?si=273b0a5aaf3c4155
To see the full show notes, go here👉🏾https://SMBwell.com/355
CONNECT WITH COACH SUSIE:
⭐️ Website – https://smbwell.com
⭐️ The Love Your Life School Membership – http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com
⭐️ Support Susie’s Mission: https://patreon.com/susiepettit
⭐️ YouTube- LOVE YOUR LIFE VLOG – YouTube https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW9PibXJfNpKk5Yr6rpNVq4P_utWFkvYS
⭐️ Instagram – https://instagram.com/smb.wellness
![The Feedback Wheel: How to Have Hard Conversations Without Drama [RELATIONSHIP SERIES]](https://smbwell.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Feedback-Wheel.jpg)
Relationships
Do you ever avoid tough conversations because you don’t want to rock the boat? Or maybe you try to talk but end up feeling misunderstood or defensive? Possibly you’re like me, you over talk, over explain, and sometimes get overly defensive? 🫣
In today’s episode, I’m teaching a game-changing tool: the Feedback Wheel—a simple, four-step framework to help you express yourself clearly and confidently. It has helped me feel more confident and I want to teach it to you so you can feel this way too.
I break down exactly how to communicate your thoughts and feelings without blame, defensiveness, or endless back-and-forth arguments. Whether you’re talking to your partner, teen, coworker, or parent, this tool will help you feel more calm, confident, and heard.
Tune in to learn:
✅ Why relationships impact your mental and physical health
✅ The four steps of the Feedback Wheel (and why they work!)
✅ How to ask for what you need—without guilt or resentment
If you’re tired of feeling frustrated in conversations and want a clear, loving way to communicate, this episode is for you. Let’s go, Warriors! 💙
🔗 Links & Resources:
→ Grab the Feedback Wheel graphic on Instagram (@smb.wellness) https://www.instagram.com/smb.wellness
→ Listen to my Emotional Intelligence Foundations: https://smbwell.com/roadmap/
→ Join Love Your Life School: https://smbwell.com/lifeschool/
If you liked this show, you’ll like these two:
7 Losing Strategies in Marriage and Parenting Teens on Apple Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/7-losing-strategies-in-marriage-and-parenting-teens/id1434429161?i=1000693864597
7 Losing Strategies in Marriage and Parenting Teens on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4lSjLrUtzbxPxyT7pd5OXh?si=f1edf69f10014adf
Energy Vampire on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/energy-vampiers/id1434429161?i=1000499118596
Energy Vampire on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/448fwDLYZG9JPEwpq6OIVm?si=219485c233bb4b08
To read more and peruse the full show notes, go here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/348
CONNECT WITH COACH SUSIE:
↻ Website – https://smbwell.com
↻ The Love Your Life School Membership – http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com
↻ Support Susie’s Mission – https://patreon.com/susiepettit
↻ YouTube – LOVE YOUR LIFE VLOG – YouTube – https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW9PibXJfNpKk5Yr6rpNVq4P_utWFkvYS
↻ Instagram – https://instagram.com/smb.wellness
