I encourage you to reframe how you think of boundaries. They are not negative, punitive, or something we do to other people. Boundaries are actually a way we take care of and protect ourselves in relationships. Setting boundaries in my important relationships has allowed me to have more fulfilling relationships than ever before.
Consider this your wake up call: if your kids are over the age of 2, certainly the age of 4, it is time to retrain your brain. It’s time to start listening to the inner rumblings of your soul, of your inner warrior. What is she trying to tell you?
As an adult, I am independent. It is not up to my husband, my father, or my mother to make me happy or provide for me. I am in charge of that. There was no knight in shining armor coming to rescue me. I don’t need one. I have me and I am a warrior.
These 3 “rules” come up time and time again in my relationships. If I’m triggered by something, it’s usually because I’m doing (or not doing) one of these 3 things.
You can only do as well as the knowledge and the tools that you have. When we know better, we do better. And so….let’s learn and grow! We are the adults. We brought our child into this world and it is our responsibility to learn the tools and knowledge so as to best parent these innocent beings.
